You ever try to do something with someone, and it's like pulling teeth? You can't agree on what movie to go see, what place to meet for lunch, what cd to split your money for and buy? That will drive you BANANAS!!!!! Mo and I can say pratically anything! Funny, sad, angry, blah, whatever, and we know it's SAFE! While we have similar beliefs and values, we don't agree on a whole lot, but we kind of have a rhythm, and we can see what's important to the other.
But, we have been able to allow ourselves to be individuals, to evolve, to grow, and change! And we are both doing it! So we are living, laughing, and loving life, and it's so cool to be yourself with someone who understands where you were, where you are, and where you want to go!
The key is to ensure you have a safe place to Express Yourself. Anyone who knows us personally knows that we LOVE Salt N Pepa. They have a song "Express Yourself". The point of the song is that one person wants to be like someone else, but that person is trying to be like another person. It goes on and on... Mo and I NEVER had that issue. We were always free to be who we are! There was NEVER comparisons, envy, jealousy, EVER! Honestly, I know it's hard to believe, but it really is possible to have a friend who doesn't want anything from you! She knew she was safe with me, and I knew I was safe with her. I'm not saying things weren't difficult as we evolved individually, but even then, we were able to allow each other the time and space without taking things personally. Her time and space that was necessary for her had NOTHING to do with me. And vice versa...
We both are set on the next phase of our lives! We are intentional on being better women, better wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, friends and so on. Because of that, we are free to Express Ourselves, requiring the other to encourage, inspire, motivate, give tough love and a funny joke.
At the end of the day, your friend has to let you be you!
Express Yourself
Tone
For Real
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